A friend of mine wrote something about meeting different kinds of people in life, experiences gained, lessons learnt and his fears about his life and its uncertain propositions at the age of 43.
I, myself, have reached the mature age of 40. There are times when I feel old, (mostly the doings of an unhealthy lifestyle growing up) but I got to thinking and I am not fearful of the future. It is true that the age which can be called ‘prime‘ is already past and yet there still is a lot left to do.
I am a person of meagre requirements, I can survive on basics as far as materialistic possessions are concerned. I don’t need the latest in technology to feel a part of the moving, dynamic world, neither do I require branded clothing and footwear to convince myself that I am moving with the times. I can do pretty well with homemade food and long walks too. Hence, I have a pretty good picture of my future etched in my mind. It would be sedentary and I would be pleased, even if I only have my books, pen, paper in material possessions and LOVE to make everything worthwhile.
I am a romantic and I do see the world through rose – colored glasses. In these forty years I have come across loads of experiences, some pleasant, others educative. I have encountered people of every kind. Like most of us, I have seen friends who disappear once their interests are served, along side friends who appear only when needed badly and still behave the same as, may be, years before.
I am lucky to have a bunch of the latter category, although I have seen a deluge of the former. And yet my belief in the goodness of mankind never waivers. To each his or her own. As we sow, so shall we reap. If we have been good to people, that good will come back to us in unexpected ways. If someone has been nasty to us, it isn’t for us to decide how they should be punished by coming down to their level. There is a system of checks and balances with the Almighty and HE keeps a record of everything. So why worry about the negative experiences.
Life is just too short to keep grudges and staying stuck in one place. Moving on should be the mantra. You feel appreciated, you move on because one cannot and should not rest on past laurels, you feel ignored, you move on because that place is clearly not for you but some other might be.
I have read so much and after a point of time things do not stick to our minds as they used to. So, while I might remember a story I read in middle school, I am most likely to forget what I read a week back. But a few years back, I read some principles of metaphysics that have stuck with me and anything I do, I test it on those principles. They have been helpful in getting me through agitated states of mind too. I particularly love the second one.
The Four(4) Principles of Metaphysics
It is not important whether you are spiritual or believe in God ….
But the four principles of metaphysics apply to all from the moment one is born and until our last breath !!
The First Principle states: “Whomsoever you encounter is the right one” … This means that no one comes into our life by chance. Everyone who is around us, anyone with whom we interact, represents something, whether to teach us something or to help us improve a current situation.
The Second Principle states: “Whatever happened is the only thing that could have happened” … Nothing, absolutely nothing of that which we experienced could have been any other way. Not even in the least important detail. There is no “If only I had done that differently, then it would have been different”. NO .. What happened is the only thing that could have taken place and must have taken place for us to learn and evolve in order to move forward. Every single situation in life which we encounter is absolutely perfect, even when it defies our understanding and our ego.
The Third Principle states: “Each moment in which something begins is the right moment”… Everything begins at exactly the right moment, neither earlier nor later. This is because we are subconsciouly ready for the new experience or challenge.
The Fourth Principle states: “What is over, is over”
… It is very simple. When something comes to an end, it helps us evolve. Hence, enriched by the recent experience, it is better to let go and move on.
These principles mean that not even a single snowflake falls at the wrong time or the wrong place.
If we believe these, we wouldn’t be fearful of what life holds for us. What is destined to happen will happen. We just have to keep moving. We just have to keep making prudent decisions which deem right to us at that point of time without thinking what if they backfire. They might. But we cannot see that happening while making our choices. So why get muddled. Just do what feels right in your heart. That is one voice we cannot ignore. More often than not, we will be rewarded in the long run.
We have a friend in need. What do we do? Help them or think if I help him today, he might be of use tomorrow.. That is a sick way of looking at things. If we call someone a friend, they should be helped without thinking what they can or might do for us. That’s how human relationships work.
This year has been particularly challenging in many regards. Jobs, economy, health standards, social etiquette, everything has changed. There is a lot of uncertainty about everything these days. What remains the same is how we connect with people.
Life will go on. The world will keep moving and those, who keep pace with the change while being firmly planted in human relationships, will have nothing to worry of future.
Shun REGRETS. Stick by your decisions & choices. Do not stagnate. Change with changing situations. Never let go of HOPE. Keep moving. Have FAITH in the PRESENT.
May God be kind to all of us.
May the future hold only good things.